Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Tips and advice from a First Time Mom

Ok...I thought I had a pretty good handle on the whole baby thing.  Having done a LOT of baby sitting for kids of all ages. Let me tell you something...I knew, well, nothing!  More so the postpartum things...but still!


I'll start with the items that everyone pretty much knows...

1) Babies eat...all the time!  Especially when they're brand new.  Julia nursed every 2 hours for pretty much the first 6 weeks.  She was teeny when she was born, so they wanted to make sure she gained the appropriate amount of weight...which she did.
2) Babies poop...a LOT!  Every time they eat, they poop!  Well, not all babies do.  Some babies can go a few days without a poopy diaper.  Count on 12+ diapers per day when your baby is born...for at least the first few weeks.  Do the math...12 diapers a day X 7 days in a week = 84 diapers in a week.  Multiplied by 4.5 weeks in a month = 378 diapers a month...consider cloth diapers!!!  They have come SO FAR from back in the day...
3) Babies sleep...a LOT!  At first, a baby will probably only be awake long enough to eat, and maybe a diaper change.  As they get older, they will stay awake much longer!  Julia is up to 2-3 hours at a time being awake.
4) Babies cry...for everything.  Crying is their only means of communication at first.  So if your newborn is crying (probably up to about 2 1/2-3 months), it's for a reason.  Whether it be for a diaper change, needing to eat, being tired, wanting to be held, wanting to be left alone, being uncomfortable...many, many things!
5) Sleep when the baby sleeps.  You hear it all the time, but it is so true!!!  Maybe not every single time the baby sleeps, but in those early weeks, try to grab as many naps as you can when your little bundle is sleeping.  Housework can wait.

Now, on to the things that many ladies won't realize...we'll start with the new mom-to-be.
1) You will still look pregnant for a bit after you have your baby.
2) Your feet will more than likely be swollen for a few days.
3) You will be super tired for a while.  If someone offers to help you...TAKE IT.  And SLEEP when that person is assisting you.
4) You more than likely won't get a shower every single day at first.  Deal with it.  Sleep is more important...
5) You will SHED more than you ever have in your entire life!!!  Probably for the first 3 months or so postpartum.
6) Your boobs will HURT.  If you're not planning on breastfeeding, this may be 10 fold for you.
7) Your nips will HURT.  If you're going to be breastfeeding, you may end up with cracked, bleeding nipples.  It's not pretty, but stick it out!  It DOES get easier, and is so worth it!
8) Your boobs will leak...get some breast pads!!!
9) Your hips will still hurt also.  All that stuff moved out of the way to let that baby out, it's gotta go back!
10) You will be emotional.  You will cry at the drop of a dime, and you may get angry very easily.  However...if the emotions you are feeling are extreme, or disturbing to you...Please contact your doctor.  Post Partum Depression (PPD) is a serious issue, and your doctor can help you.
11) If you have a vaginal delivery, you will be sore for a while!  If you will be sore a LOT longer!
12) You will still have contractions for a while after the baby is born.

Ok, and the general advice I would like to give:
1) If you're planning on breastfeeding, invest in a GOOD pump before your baby comes.  Don't wait until the day after your baby comes home, when your boobs feel like they're going to explode like I did, and get stuck with buying the "cheapy" pump that will be "ok".  Trust me.  I wound up buying two pumps, because the "ok" pump just wasn't "ok".
2) Buy some breast pads.  Whether you're going to breastfeed or not...get them.
3) Put your makeup on in the morning even if you don't get a shower.  It will help you feel human when you're beyond exhausted.
4) Buy some BIG the overnight kind.  You WILL bleed for at least a week, but as long as 6 weeks +.
5) Get some Tucks (or witch hazel pads)'re not going to want to wipe.
6) Take everything...EVERYTHING they have for you to use at the hospital.  Your bathroom items, diapers, wipes, etc.  Take them.  If you don't, they pitch them.
7) Don't pack your hospital bag with enough for a week long vacation.  Take a couple changes of clothes for you and your partner, your partners bathing suit (if you want to try a water birth, or if you want a shower while you're in labor), some snacks (something sour to wet your mouth while in labor), some music, your camera, chap stick, and maybe some books, magazines, or crafts to pass the time.  You don't need all the stuff they say you need.
8) Seriously consider cloth diapers.  They are a HUGE cost savings.  You add one to 3 loads of laundry per week, but it really isn't that bad.  Keep some disposables on hand just in case, but if you go the disposable route, you could spend upwards of $7,000 or more by the time the baby is potty trained.  I've spent about $600 on my cloth diaper "stash"...and they'll fit Julia until she's potty trained.  Plus, you can use them for consecutive babies!  More savings!
9) If you're going to breastfeed, please don't give up! It's so worth it, and it does get easier!  If your baby doesn't latch at first, keep trying.  A friend of mine finally got her little man to latch after...what...3 months I believe!  Amazing!
10) Don't be afraid to ask for help, or ask questions!  Whether your mom, a recent new mom, or someone that hasn't had a baby in years.  We've all been there, and we can all give you advice!
11) Take lots of don't want these precious times to slip away...

I'll add more as I come up with them, but I am about to take a nap myself!

God bless!

Sunday, September 19, 2010

My opinion...

Don't take your family for don't know how long you will have them.
God Bless,

Friday, September 17, 2010

My new job

Well, I started a new job on Monday.  See, what my former boss didn't know, is that I was leaving that company to work for JLB Inc.  I liked my desk job!  I really enjoyed what I did.  But, my heart wasn't there.  It was with another employer.  Every day that I drove to that job, and dropped my little girl off at day care, I ached to see her develop, change, advance...  I was able to give up the cushy desk job that paid me well - given the fact that I only had 2 semesters of college under my belt - offered benefits, sick time and vacation pay.  I left that position to take on a job with JLB Inc.  My new job is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with no pay, no sick time, no vacation time...but has HUGE benefits.  I get to see my daughter grow up!  I can take naps and snuggle breaks with her whenever I want.  I can work on random crafty projects whenever I want.  I can straighten up the house, go shopping at the drop of a dime...well, if the new boss is ok with it.  It's only been a week, and I'm loving it so far.  I can deal with not having a pay check...

Meet my new boss...

Miss JLB.  She's also modeling the beret I made for her...  =)

God Bless!

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Happy Half Birthday!

Just a quick update...Lil Miss J turned 6 months old today!  She had her 6 month appointment also, and is weighing in at 14 lbs 6 oz now!  They measured her at 24 1/4", but I'm POSITIVE she's longer than that...oh well...she'll have a big jump at her next appointment.  =)

Aaaannnnddd....a couple photos...enjoy!

God Bless!

Wednesday, September 1, 2010


I think any mom knows that your plans can (and WILL) change in a heartbeat when a baby is involved.  We can try and try to keep to our plans, but chances's not going to happen exactly the way we would like.  I'm not saying this is necessarily a bad thing, but it can be rather annoying sometimes.  =)  Mostly when the wee one decides that filling their pants - 5 seconds after a clean diaper is put on, and 5 seconds before it's time to run out the door - is entertaining!  Julia does this on a semi regular basis...I actually find it pretty funny myself because she will just look at me and grin after she does it.

Once I'm home with her all the time, I've got big plans!!!  We'll see how well it all goes though.  I have one crochet project in the works (yes...the blanket that I started for her when I was's almost done), four more that I really want to get going on - but I'm making myself wait until the blanket is done, a latch hook that I just started, a blog to maintain - Timewarp Tuesday's are kind of unintentionally on hiatus, a garden to tend in preparation for next year, lilies to move out from the house a bit so they don't lean so much, a house to clean, puzzles to work, oh yeah...and a baby to take care of!  LOL

I'm so excited, it's hard to keep it under wraps while I'm at work so that people don't get it twisted into a lack of focus on my part. my L.A.S.T. day.  It's still hard to believe for's a dream come true...I'm hoping (well, I'm fairly certain) that I might finally feel like there is enough time in the day.  I often wonder how so many moms can work full time and not feel bad at the end of the day.  I know that staying home isn't an option for a lot of people - and who knows, maybe I'll be working somewhere again before I really want to - but it's a risk I'm willing to take for the better of our family.  Yes, it's going to be pretty tight for a while until we get a budget really nailed down...but we're ready.  If it wasn't for cloth diapering (the cost savings is INCREDIBLE), and breastfeeding (thanks be to God that I'm able to nurse my baby)...I wouldn't be able to do this.  =)

And now, a couple of photos for your enjoyment  =) 

This was taken on 8/'s been a big hit already!

And this one was taken 8/27...

God Bless!